Nov 02, 2015
Remember? Remember what it was like to give, to truly give? You might have to go back to when you were a child - if you can - to remember what it was like! Remember that feeling of complete selflessness, of brimming with the fullness of love? To remember or imagine that feeling is to call to mind the way in which a child gives a gift... It is the act of giving that articulates all the things there aren’t any words for!
I remember that, what it was like for me; to be bursting with the intensity of the expression... but going about the wrapping of the gift in an obviously child-like, clumsy manner! I remember always mis-judging the wrapping paper (despite the fierce concentration!) and cutting it way too short; the ends never folding up as perfectly as I imagined and I always seemed to get so much sticky tape stuck to my fingers…!
What happened to that, I wonder? Surely it’s not just a matter of growing up. Can we not “re-imagine” what it is to give?
Buy Less. Choose Well. Make it Last (Vivienne Westwood).
To truly give is really very simple. It requires only that you think not of yourself, but of the person to whom you are giving the gift. True giving is giving without expectation of receiving anything in return. When you give like this - like a child does - you “give whole-heartedly” and create great happiness not just for the recipient of the gift, but for yourself too.
And that is the joy of giving! What you give will flow back to you in direct proportion to the feelings you had in the moment you gave. To experience appreciation, give whole-hearted appreciation; to experience joy, give whole-hearted joy; to experience love, give whole-hearted love. It’s true of smiles, generosity, gratitude, gentleness, kindness… these are some of the most precious gifts in life. What’s more, they have absolutely no cost and there are no limits on the amount we have within ourselves to give. In fact, the more we do give, the more we experience the fullness of love, happiness - and joy - in our own lives.
So true giving isn’t just a childlike thing after all. It’s something we can cultivate in our own lives to re-imagine (and experience) the feeling of joy that comes from giving.
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” Lao Tzu